Life doesn’t always take us in the direction we want to go.
If you would have asked me twenty years ago what I wanted to do with my life I would have shared with you my dream of farming. I was young, but I had it all figured out.
Because it’s tradition for the first son (or only son) to inherit the trade or legacy of a father, I knew my brother would inherit all the farm stuff from our father. And, that was okay. I went to school and got my degree in accounting. I’ve been keeping the farm books since I was seventeen.
My plan was to work alongside my brother on the farm, I’d do the bookkeeping and care for the young cattle and he’d do the milking and we’d both raise our families.
Sounded like a great plan right?
Maybe you’ve seen those commercials lately for the farmer match maker dating site: Farmersonly.com (note: I have no affiliation with this site, I’ve just watched their commercial on Television one night.)
That’s how I saw my life. Living on or close to the farm, working the land, tending the animals, and marring a handsome farmer.
As the daughter of a dairy farmer , naturally, I assumed I’d become a farmer’s wife.
Then I fell in love with a mathematician.
Do you hear life laughing at me?
Not only did I marry that mathematician, he was also allergic to animals, including my beloved horse and the cows.
Can you hear the laughter now?
Yep, the joke was on me.
For years, I followed my husband from new jobs to other states so he can teach and get his teaching certifications and degrees. Yet, all the while I kept telling myself I could live without the farm.
Who was I kidding?
While you can tie down and try to pen up the farm girl inside me, it can’t be contained for long.
Because no matter how hard you try, you can’t stop being who you are or yearning for what it is you’ve always wanted.
Deep down– farmer’s daughter, farmer’s wife, — it makes no difference. Being a farm girl is who I am. Farming is in my blood. I might have been born in a hospital, but my parents brought me home and raised me on the farm.
I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again: you can take the girl from the farm, but you can’t take the farm from the girl. Go ahead share tweet this to your friends.
Sometimes we all need to return to our roots.
Sometimes we need to stop asking, “What if” and instead formulate the “How.”
It’s like falling in love and courting your future other half. The answers will come as you need them. Just rely on your heart and the faith you hold inside you to be your guide.