Next Generation of Barn Cats

Look what I found in the barn.

barn kittensThey were hiding amongst the hay in the top of the barn.

You hear them before you see them.

And like most little kitty’s these ones are curious, too.

I’m in love with the calico one. See her orange and black and white fur.

She’s just in fashion for this fall and while timid warms up really fast to being cuddled.

kittens

kittenThen this little kitty wanted to come too,  when I left them to snuggle up in the warm nook their mother had left them in to go hunting.

Their mother is the oldest cat on the farm. She’s had too many litters to keep count, but by the end of the week I’m sure all these cuties will have names.

What do you think, what would you name them?

What is True Love?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)

There is no greater love than described above. Some of us search our entire lives for a love so true as this. Some of us find it, breech the gates, and graciously return it. Some of us are blinded from finding it. On their journey they become lost in a world full of envy, rudeness, and self-seeking advancements of man-kind. Then again, some of us, haven’t figured out how to take our blinders off and can still only see straight ahead. But, at least, they are willing to take it on – head on.

Love should not cost you a dime. It is a gift, freely given, to those you wish to share it. Many times we shower those we love with piles of gifts. It is when we expect something back in return of those gifts that we haven’t truly understood the meaning of true love.

Love is patient, it waits through the trials of time. Today too many of our young people rush into romantic relationships because they are too afraid of being alone. Nobody wants to be the old maid, or the grumpy old man with no one to care for them, to love them. But, unfortunately, a lot of times, we mistake one night of “togetherness” as love. Wake up, before it’s too late. Love, true love, is more than spent passion.

Love is kind, it’s never rude. It doesn’t call you at 3a.m.to tell you, you look miserable. It never belittles you, or takes advantage of a bad day. Love is soft spoken words, cute notes in your lunch, and a hug at the end of the day. A shoulder to rest your head, and a ear to listen to what you have to say, that is true love.

Love is not envious, boastful, or proud. It simply is – love. It doesn’t dress up in disquise. It doesn’t pull out a wallet full of pictures. It doesn’t sit up on your shelf in your trophy cabnet. It accepts there are flaws in everyone’s design. It embraces who you are and encourages you to go far. Love from within, shares in your delights and downfalls, it lifts you up,and twirls you around. Love gives even when you don’t feel like giving anymore.

Love, when knocked down, gets upset, but never angry. Words are expressed, feelings shared, and lips locked without shouting. Debates issued, differences resolved, and couples reconciled. There are no scoreboards, no charts, or records in the relationship of true love.

Love holds no secrets, no strong boxes left locked. There are no deceptions or deviations of flight plans. Love knows all, sees all, hears all, can be all things. There are no walls built between the boundaries of man and wife. There are no boundaries when two people become one in wedlock.

When true love exists it builds a tent, it protects, and it shelters the innocent. Children are never harmed by separating parents, because marriage like true love is sacred. Homes are built on solid foundations made from the purest extracts affection. Families are blossomed under the protection of God’s truth taught inside their homes.

Love brings hope when there is only despair. Love does not give up on first attempt. It does not fail. Love never fails. Love regroups, reconnects, reshapes, into something stronger, larger, more intimate then before. Love, true love, is everlasting.

If only we didn’t live in a world of reality….

When we love someone, more than ourselves, more than any possession on earth, then, and only then, do we know what true love really is.

When and Why Marriages Go Bad

When a bride walks down the aisle and all heads turn, there is a mother in the front pew with tears in her eyes, sadness in her heart, and a smile at her lips. It is an experience every mother both dreads and hopes for at the same time.

When two people leave the security of their families and become one, there are bound to learn to live with each other. Although, more often than not in today’s society, one of them end up back at their mother’s house.

Why is this?

Marriage is a commitment of love, faith, and loyalty. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31) They live under one roof, share the same bed, and make decisions like who’s going to take the garbage out. Adjustments are made, conflicts are ignited and defused, and life begins a new for the newly weds.

During the course of marriage, life changes and so do the individuals making up the couple. There are great joys and happiness. The blessings of children, new career paths, and opportunities. There comes periods of illness, grief, strife, and relational stresses. Too many times significant others are left out or left behind in the other’s emotional turmoil.

Most often couples grow apart with the increasing demands of raising a family and following a career path. Men, more than women, have a difficult time opening up and sharing their worries and communicating with their wives. Too often assumptions are made without talking and discussions, and neither man nor wife ever realize the wrong of the situation until the couple has reached the rocky side of their marriage.

Daily intimacy needs to become factored back into marriages. Couples need to talk everyday and laugh often. Spouses shouldn’t be afraid to speak to the other on how they feel and avoid mocking or intimidating the other for their feelings. Because if they are important enough for your spouse to confide in you, then they are important enough to be addressed in a sensitive, understanding, and caring matter.

Women need to feel loved. They need warm arms and long nuzzles. But they need understanding, compassion, and the freedom to express themselves inside the sanctuary of their home. They need men who listen with open ears and offer support.

Live, love, talk, talk so more, and then kiss and make up. That is what marriage is all about folks. When you don’t have anything more to give, give some more. Don’t be afraid to cook a special meal, bring home flowers, or an extra good night kiss. It could mean the difference between sleeping in your bed, or going to your mother’s house.

What Do You Deserve in a Marital Relationship?

Too many times couples enter into marriage under the wrong pretenses. Each person thinks they deserve to get more out of their relationship than the other can realistically give to them. Misconceptions are formed and assumed that the more you put into a relationship the more you will get in return. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work that way.

What you deserve in a martial relationship is love, attention, and for your partner to hold an attraction towards you (even when you’re wrinkled and old).

All these things were promised during the vow you and your spouse made on your wedding day. It probably went something like this, “To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.”

Maintaining a martial relationship is no cake walk. It’s more like the innings of a baseball game where you never know where each pitch will take you or if you’ll simply strike out. But, one thing is for certain, you deserve to have your partner uphold their wedding vows. Like you, your partner is out there swinging for your love, and attention.

Sometimes, we become so caught up in the game that we forget someone else is on our team pinch hitting for us.

Love is a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude towards another, which grows into an intense emotional attachment. Everyone has a different way of expressing emotions. Make sure, you understand your partner’s way of demonstrating their love. If you don’t think you’re getting enough love, talk to your partner. Find out ways both of you can reciprocate this feeling in a mutual satisfying way. As a married couple, you and your spouse should strive to have special bond that is unbreakable.

Life has a way of veering us in directions we’ve never been before. We get lost in our careers, our children, and our self goals. Then we stand in the middle of a cross roads one day looking back and trying to figure out how we got left behind. It’s a lonely, attention deprived, road, and our spouses won’t be able to keep up with us. So they find their own path.

It takes time to be given time, and when you make time for your spouse, you make time for yourself. You both get the attention you deserve. It may take a little scheduling like a weekly meeting at the dining room table, or a date night with a good movie and some popcorn. Both you and your spouse won’t feel attention deprived anymore.

When you first met your spouse there was a mutual attraction. You found their eyes alluring. You couldn’t keep yourself from fantasying about them when they weren’t there. There was some kind of physical feature that seemed to perk your interest. Perhaps it was their witty humor or the way they always could find you in a crowd.

Time changes all things, including people. Both you and your spouse deserve to keep the flame of attraction burning in your marriage. If the old attraction has faded, chin up, there are new ones to discover. Marriage, like a good wine, goes through a period of festering and gets better with age. You might not find your spouse’s witty humor so appealing anymore, but the way they wiggle their eyebrows makes you laugh.

Don’t allow misconceptions of marriage to void you of a loving, attention filled, and attraction holding relationship.